I find the title of this book ironic. There is really nothing gray about this issue to me. It’s black and white. I’m actually appalled that Christian women are reading this book. For reasons like this one: “Our sex life is boring. We need something to spice it up.” I’m curious. Would you go to a strip club with your husband to spice up your life?
Would you sit and watch pornography with him? I didn’t think so. Yet, what you are doing by reading these books, and in some cases, asking your husband to read them with you is just that. You are fantasizing about something that is not real. The only difference between a book and a strip club is you have to use your imagination. Trash in, trash out, people! What you think will enhance your marriage is most likely going to be the very thing that will destroy it.
You see, when I was young and first married, I was into the “Christian Romance Novels.” No, sex was not involved. However, the evoke emotions and feelings within you that should only come from your husband. All of the sudden there is this great man, tall, dark, handsome, and perfect. You know what he looks like, how he sounds. And then, what your husband does isn’t good enough because you are comparing it to this fictitious man in a book. I found that I would get lost in a book and neglect my husband. I found that I was comparing my husband to the leading men in those books.
I think it is sad that we are resorting to sex novels to spice up our life.
Yesterday I asked the question on my Facebook page as to whether or not Christian women should be reading ’50 Shades of Grey’. Here are some responses:
“Sad that question even has to be asked. But a lot are. I will not.”
“To me, any book that makes us want greater from our spouses than what we currently have causes people to look elsewhere. Many women have issues with their husbands viewing pornography but find no harm in reading these books or other “romance” novels. Are they not the same? Don’t reading these books bring pornography into our brains? Many women have discussed how “hot these books have made them – shouldn’t our spouses be the ones to get us “hot”? Shouldn’t we want to be with our spouses in every way without having to become excited by writing? At what point do we call a spade a spade and keep our marriages sacred?”
“Want a pick-me-up in the bedroom? Read Song of Solomon. Spend quality time with your spouse. Tell your spouse how much you appreciate him and all he does for you and your family. Pray for God to increase your desire for each other.”
It gives me some righteous anger. It makes me angry that women are reading this. Not just any women. Christian women. AND THEN asking their husbands to read it with them. No thank you. I want no part in that.
“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” Philippians 4.8
We have love stories written on the pages of our Bibles. We don’t need to turn to secular or Christian writings for that. Think about what you are doing to your heart and your mind when you read books, look at pornography or anything else that the world says is okay to do when it comes to ‘boosting your sex life.’ Why should we take the World’s advice? Do we really think the world knows whats best for us? Are they really looking out for our best interests? I don’t think so. Not one bit.
Please, I beg of you. Put the book down. Burn it. Do NOT take it to Goodwill for some other poor soul to read. Get that trash out of your house and never bring it back in!
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