Any Skirt Wearers? The ‘Why’ of Skirt Wearing
I became a skirt wearer back in November of 2011. It was a decision made based on multiple things. One of the biggest reasons I started even thinking about it was Amy’s posts at Raising Arrows. She did a “She Wears Skirts” series, and I followed right along. I hit up a great thrift store over Thanksgiving and scored some great skirts! Since, I’ve also gone to Goodwill to find more.
I was reminded this weekend why I have decided to wear skirts. You see, I was having one of those days where I didn’t really feel like wearing any of my clothes. PLEASE tell me you have those too! It was Saturday night and we were going to church. I said to Greg, “I just want to throw on a pair of pants and a t-shirt.” He said, “Why don’t you?”
So, I grab the one pair of pants that I kept. They are/were my favorite pair. I actually had plans of turning them into a skirt. This is a normal pair of pants, mind you, nothing special. I put them on, and you know what? I’m just going to say it. I felt sexy. I looked down at my legs and thought, “That’s what I look like under those skirts!” I came downstairs and my husband’s reaction was more than flattering.
“WOAH!”
Honestly, I couldn’t stop smiling. I’ve been working hard to get into jeans like those! And yet, I was reminded the very reason why I decided to stop wearing them. I also realized that it’s okay to wear them at home. There is no reason I need to hide that from my husband. I said, “I guess that means I shouldn’t wear them to church then.”
And that’s the point. I know Greg is my husband, however, I also know his response was genuine. And I just kept thinking and saying, “If this is how you react, how do you think other men will react?” I went back upstairs and picked out something else to wear.
This is me on a typical day. I have a few shirts from Kohls that are comfortable and I can wear them and not look sloppy… at least I don’t think I do. 
All my skirts come to my knee or are longer. Honestly, the length of this skirt isn’t very flattering on me because of my height. However, I’m not trying to flatter myself. I’m not trying to stand out in the crowd as one who is ‘good-looking’. I’d rather just blend in and be that ‘girl whose wearing a skirt. Weirdo.’
I was reminded that I need to be aware of the way I dress to protect my brothers in Christ. Not just myself or my husband. I don’t want to dress in anyway that would cause someone to stumble. I also dress in skirts because it makes me feel more lady-like. I’m not saying you can’t feel like a lady in pants. I’m not even saying you shouldn’t wear pants. It is the manner in which we wear them that disturbs me. When they look painted on, and you can’t sit down with your rear end hanging out, there is a problem. I know you can wear pants modestly, so please don’t mistake me here. I think it is getting harder to do because of the way the companies are making them, but I do believe it is possible.
Not only skirts, but tops need to be modest. What good would it do to wear a moo-moo skirt with a shirt that is all cleavage? Just a thought….
If we are doing the best we can to dress modestly and cover up what needs to be covered up, and men around us are still having lustful thoughts, then that is their problem. I am responsible for myself, my attitude, my actions, and my dress.
“ I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting;in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.” 1st Timothy 2.8-10
What about you? Do you wear skirts, pants, both?I’d love to hear what you think!
Blessings,
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Boy how I wish some of the ladies in our congregation would read this. Skin tight dresses with things hanging out that shouldn’t be hanging out in church. I have been wearing dresses now for over 3 years and feel very feminine.
That’s a big thing for us Jill. My husband is a worship leader at our church. He likes to say, “People think I’m spiritual because I close my eyes, but it’s really that I don’t want to look at what the women are wearing.”
I have been trying to incorporate skirts into my wardrobe. The problem I have with them is the amount of attention I get when I wear them, which is the opposite of what I want in striving to be modest. It is very uncommon for a woman to wear skirts where I live, even at church. Wearing one makes you really stand out and causes people to think (guessing, based on the looks on their faces) “Who does she think she is?? Is she better than us???). It made me feel very self-conscious. My husband, teasingly, even called me “granny” a couple of times (his grandmother is the only woman he ever knew to wear a skirt) even though my skirts are stylishly cut (A-line, mermaid) and mostly denim. So now I wear my skirts at home and put jeans on when I head out… Stupid, I know!!!! But I don’t want to stand out or appear “holier than thou.” How to overcome this??
I so understand that Cathy! And it’s not stupid! It is a balance for sure. It’s hard to take when you know others are judging you. In some ways, I suppose, I am being judgmental of those who wear pants. However, I’m not talking any pants. I’m talking pants and shirts that leave nothing to the imagination. That are obvious stumbling blocks to those around them. I don’t think wearing skirts makes me any more holy than the next person. Again, I feel more feminine, more lady like. It really comes down to a matter of the heart. To which, I can not judge others. Again, however, I do believe that our heart comes out in the way we dress ourselves. I COULD HAVE worn my ‘hot pants’ to church and enjoyed the looks I’m sure I would have received. I’m sure it would have boosted my self-esteem. But, that’s not what I want. I want to know, whether in skirts or pants, that I am doing all I can to be modest. Sometimes our attitude about our looks is more than just how we are dressed. I can be in a skirt and still be acting immodestly. (wow. That was another blog post!)
I, too, live in an area where it’s VERY uncommon for others to wear skirts… I just keep reminding myself that how I dress is for me to decide, not what others think. I also remind myself of the WHY- to be set apart, to show my children how to dress like a woman, and because of my modesty. It will become easier.
I love wearing skirts as well, and my favorite is my slightly long heavy cotton skirt. I can wear these outside, and the wind doesn’t whip it up :O and I can do farm work without worrying about it being too short as well, but mostly I can wear it because I love my husband so much and my Lord and I want to honor them….not out of a law, but out of A DEEP LOVE
Praising the Lord with my Sisters today!
I do a mixture of both. I wear pants more often around the house though, and skirts when going out in public. I do sometimes feel “frumpy” in my skirt. Yesterday I even asked my husband – “Do I embarras you when I’m out in skirts? Do you feel like you’re married to a ‘fuddy duddy’?” His response: “No not at all. I think you look fine, and I like it when you wear skirts.” That’s all that I needed – just some reassurance. Sometimes though, when we are out running errands, I’m very aware of the low cut shirts, the tight pants, the short shorts, and know that those girls are “hot” and here my husband has to look at me – knee length skirt, hair pulled back, a little hint of makeup, driving our 12 passenger van…and I feel as though I’m depriving him of something lovely to look at. =) But then he always has the perfect things to say, and tells me he is so proud that my shorter and tighter clothes – are just for him. =) Andit makes it all worth it.
I do the same thing Crystal! That is why, I think there is an appropriate time to dress like that. Maybe when the kids are in bed
Last night, I threw on a pair of jeans, and my son told me he liked my skirts better. That made me smile for sure!
I love wearing skirts but I need to replace all of mine because I lost 50 pounds and they just hung on me. I am back to wearing clothes that I had that were smaller (which were all shorts/pants) but I’m working on getting more skirts! Good job!
That’s where Goodwill and Thrift Stores come in! I’ve been on a bit of a ‘weight loss’ journey myself and I have a few skirts that I bought at Thanksgiving that no longer fit. One reason why I like elastic bands
and Thank you for stopping in and commenting!
Excellent post, Gail! I’m a skirt wearer too.
Thank you Erika! That is a big one for me….. to be set apart. I know that it may draw attention, but I don’t think it is ‘bad’ attention. If someone would like to ask me why I wear skirts, I will tell them. It’s not for ‘religious reasons’. It’s MORE than that!
That’s so funny…my husband and I had a very similar conversation. And his reaction to my outfit of choice that day made me realize I needed to change before we left! You are beautiful, Gail, but your heart is what stands out to me!
Exactly. I know if my husband responds that way, so are other people. And, thank you Kasey. <3 I’m glad to call you friend!
Gail,
I can totally see how the Lord is working in your life in the skirt-wearing area. I posted a month or so ago about skirt-wearing and Christian women. It is not the skirt that makes us a better Christian, it’s the heart behind it. The Lord has totally done a work on you girl and I’m proud of you.
I am still wearing pants and skirts and have not made a total switch yet. Don’t know if I will but I appreciate your honest and obedience to the Lord.
Thank you Danielle. I really appreciate that. I’m pretty gung ho about things, so when I knew I was going to make the transition, I just did it and got rid of all of my pants, with the exception of the 1 pair
Maybe some day I will feel differently. Until then… you will find me in a skirt 
Gail, I’d love it if you would link up (contribute) on a weekly basis at “EOA’ Wednesdays. You write about things that matter, and it would be helpful to my readers. Also, the community here is growing amongst the like-minded gals. Great post. (BTW, soon I will be doing a series of posts on lovely modest dressing I think you will be interested in.
Blessings,
Jacqueline
Thank you Miss Jacqueline! I will do that for sure! I’ve been cutting back a bit on how much I’ve been blogging, but when I do, I will make sure to link up with you! And yes! I can’t wait to read it!!!
I’m a skirt wearer and would never go back to my pants! You’re spot on. I’m new to your blog — will be following! Thanks.
Thank you Meghan! I appreciate you following, and welcome!
Lately I have been wearing more skirts than pants. Partly because I just had a baby and my skirts fit better than my pre-pregnancy pants. My husband took notice and informed me that he loves me in skirts because a) he thinks I’m beautiful in them and b) it makes him feel more manly. I have found that when women embrace their feminity men can embrace their calling as leaders! Don’t get me wrong, pants can be feminine too but a girl should definitely consider both the negative and positive effects their dress has on their husband and other men. Great post!
A lot of it for me also has to do with pleasing my husband. Obviously, he liked the pants
However, that’s not what he would prefer me to wear out in public, and I completely agree! 
Well said, Gail. I, too, followed Amy and Caroline’s skirts series and started wearing skirts during that time. And I buy all my skirts at Goodwill/thrift stores, except for the 2 or 3 that I have made.I still have a pair of jeans – just in case I need them, but I haven’t worn pants for over a year(except for the long capris I wear when our family swims in the river.
) In April, I blogged about my decision to wear skirts if you’d like to read it.
(http://oliveplantsallaroundmytable.blogspot.com/2012/04/some-thoughts-on-feminnine-dress.html)
I’m not saying that women shouldn’t wear pants, either. But I am saying this is right for me. Each woman has to ask the Lord what He would her do.
Hope you’re having a lovely week-end.
Thank you for your comment Lisa. I agree. It is something the Lord impressed on my heart and my husband’s heart. I want to be following what God has for my life. I don’t know that I see skirt wearing as a ‘season’ of life, but more likely, a life style change.
Thank you, and I hope you also have a great weekend!
I just ran across this, but I don’t think it was by accident. I recently moved and in my new neighborhood, it is rare to see a woman in a skirt. I had kept one pair of capri pants when I changed my wardrobe to wear skirts over a year ago. I have recently found myself wearing the pants more when I go out and thinking about buying more. I had allowed the world to influence my decision. I needed the reminder of why I made the choice to begin with. God does everything right on time.
Thank you for stopping in! It’s been a journey for me to get to the wearing skirts thing. I really enjoy it! Continue to seek God my friend. He will not lead you astray. He will make clear what He wants for you, and as always, if you’re feeling in doubt, talk to your husband about it as well. He may be just the person to tell you what he likes to see you in
I love this post.I have been a “skirt wearer”all my life and I really enjoying see it from the perspective of someone who has not been a lifelong skirt wearer. Thanks for sharing.
Hi Katie! Yup, I’m a newbie!
It has been fun for me to transition to skirt wearing. I’m not sure if I will ever go back to pants… I guess time will tell. I don’t foresee that, at least, not out in public 
New skirt-wearer over here! (Yes, the post at Raising Arrows was the beginning of thinking about that decision.) It’s so much fun!!
I have been a full-time skirt wearer for a few years now. Modesty is definitely the driving force, and to not be “OF THE WORLD.” It has been an immense blessing to me, in so many more ways than I ever expected. Thank you for your post!
I like the fact that I’m in good company yayyyyyyyyyyy
i love wearing skirts! even the days i feel frumpy i know i look better than i feel.
my husband loves when i wear skirts and looks at me funny when i throw on pants. my kids also give me a crazy look when pants go on. i am glad for my skirts and dresses and how they make me feel. i love feeling like a woman and feel good knowing i am covered up and only my husband gets to see the rest. i think all women should wear skirts! thanks for the post, i feel totally out of place most days, but i won’t go back i am a modest mamma!
I just found you! I’d been wanting to start wearing skirts more often than pants, because I thought it was now more age-appropriate, and well, more lady-like. However after a few decades of pants, it is one difficult life habit to change but I am determinen dto accomplish it!
Yeah! Thank you for joining us here! I’ve actually been wearing more pants than skirts lately, but mostly in the home. If I go out, I still tend to wear skirts. I found a great jean skirt at Goodwill a few months back and it has become my favorite!
My problem is that I wear skirts, but that makes my husband even more frisky, even whey I am cooking!
Lol! That really makes me laugh Julia! I can be in my ‘bag’ skirt and sometimes I have to threaten the wooden spoon on my hubby
guess he still finds me attractive no matter what I’m wearing… Sounds like the same is true for you! 
Wow! I have worn skirts my entire life. I was raised in an Apostolic home where I learned firsthand the truths of holiness, modesty, being separate from the world and it’s fads/trends, and about not wearing “that which pertaineth to a man” (Deuteronomy 22:5). I have never put on a pair of jeans, I don’t even know what that feels like. Now, I must say this… being raised in an Apostolic church, there were many young ladies and even grown women who balked at this teaching and who would wear skirts as short and tight as they could get away with. To me, that throws everything out the window as to why we even teach what we do. Holiness is an outward expression of an inward condition… it’s from the inside out, not the other way around! Reading this blog post gave me hope that there are still women out there who want to dress modestly, even to the point of no jeans. It’s SO refreshing to read these comments as well. As for my husband, he absolutely loves my long skirts. He believes that modesty is beautiful, and I couldn’t agree more. I don’t know you from Adam’s house cat, Gail. But I know simply by reading this post that you are a beautiful lady. Thank you so much for sharing your heart. God bless!
WOW— First off, where are all the guys on this subject ? My wife and I have been married for over 37 years. Not one day of this time has she ever worn pants. Now before you all jump to the OLD COUPLE response, know this, I love the idea and knowledge of knowing she looks Holy in every setting. We do not look to be holier than thou, we strive to be modest in all situations. We live as a unit, what she does affects me, as well what I do affects her. I love her wearing SKIRTS !!! Now the man side of me, there is nothing sexier than a woman undressing with a skirt on. I am thrilled at my OLD AGE to know that my wife has only reveled herself to me. She never has to worry about other men ” checking her out “, because she is not advertising. She wears tops that are holy also. She is never revealing her breast to anyone other than myself. I go back often to the very first night I saw her. She was dressed holy and I was immediately struck, I knew THEN, SHE HAD TO BE MINE. I salute ALL WOMEN who wear skirts that are holy. Your true self worth is shining through. As a man, we are tempted whenever we see the female shape and skin. Sorry we were made that way. You women help us keep this temptation at bay, and we THANK YOU FOR THIS… bro. jack
I am beyond upset. I hardly ever respond to blogs or articles – and I apologize for my terse tone, but I am floored. I know I’m reading this post WAY late, but I am appalled by this type of thinking. You can be modest, honor God, honor your marriage and honor others – and still wear pants. Conversely, you can be arrogant, immodest, dishonor God, your marriage and others IN A SKIRT.
However, I’m most horrified by this part of your post:
“I was reminded that I need to be aware of the way I dress to protect my brothers in Christ. Not just myself or my husband. I don’t want to dress in anyway that would cause someone to stumble. ”
Excuse me? Protect your “brothers in Christ”? What a put down. How infuriating! To infer that men are completely incapable of remaining honorable if a young (or old) lady looks lovely, and like a curvy woman (the way God made her), in her PANTS, comes their way – is sickening. We all have base desires…and it hardly matters what the person wears, if it isn’t obscene. Give the men in your lives (and mine – and the worlds) some credit. Mine is out there honoring our commitment every day – despite women who ogle him, leer and flirt – regardless of the clothes they have on.
Live the commandments, love God and one another, and be comfortable, COMPLEMENTARY equals while you do it. Read and live the New Testament and Christ’s message. To think that wearing a dress/skirt is a ‘help’ to your brothers in Christ, is offensive in just about every way.
- Beth.
Dear Beth;
I can truly appreciate your response. I never understood why it was up to women when it came to men thinking un-pure things. It was so hard for me to grasp. Wasn’t it all the man’s fault?
Then I had something happen in our family that changed my understanding and it was quite painful. One of our 6 sons became truly addicted to porn. Not just glossies like magazines but evil porn. How it happened caught us all off guard. He went into a deep pit. He went off to college and flunked his first semester because he was online in chat rooms where you could find hookers. How could my son fall so deep into this pit of deception?
Porn is so degrading to women, I have a hard time understanding why feminist don’t get up in arms about it. He ended up going to a wonderful ministry called His Mansion. They deal with all kinds of addictions. It has been such a long road for our son. I love him so much and hurt for what he has gone through because of His choices.
However, now that his time is coming to a close we have had discussions about triggers for son. How will he live in this world with all the sex screaming at all of us all of the time? Church is a haven for him for many reasons. He is learning to look at women with respect and not sexually. This is his challenge. I want to help him by dressing in a way that won’t make him even think about the temptation. I would love for my sisters in Christ to be sensitive to His problem and dress in such a way that doesn’t show everything but their nipples and skirts or pants so short nothing is left to the imagination.
I dont ever want to be a stumbling block to any of my brothers. I believe you can wear pants in a way that is not sexual so please dont misunderstand. I feel covered and feminine without feeling sexual in a skirt is the way I chose to go but that is me personally. I hope this helps and not causes problems. May you be blessed in your decision as well as mine as we both seek to serve the LORD