Because, I can’t be both.
I can pretend to be perfect. I can clean up my children all nice, paste on a smile, and pretend that my world is always perfect. Will I be fooling anybody? Maybe only those who want a reason to not like me. My life will appear too perfect for them, and so, they will disdain me.
Or, I can be real. I can clean up my children, and have a smile on my face. But when you ask me how I am doing, my answer might be “Do you really want to know?” Because it is possible that in my world things are not all perfect. More than likely, that is how it is.
My life is good, mind you. However, there is a big difference between good and perfect. If you are looking for perfection, you will have to look somewhere else. If you are looking for realness, you’ve come to the right place.
My house is not always spotlessly clean, my dishes are not always in the dishwasher where you can’t see their dirtiness, and more likely than not, my laundry might be sitting in a basket waiting to be folded. I’m sure at least one of my children will be running around naked (or maybe with just a diaper on!).
You see, I can’t be real and perfect. If I am real, you will surely see that I’m imperfect. Or, I can pretend to be the perfection queen. If I choose the latter, I certainly risk exposure to my pretending and lies. If I’m real, then I risk the exposure of my flaws.
I don’t know about you, but I like real people. I like it when I can confess a struggle, or areas that I lack in, and not get judged. I appreciate the help from my friends when I say “I have a hard time keeping on top of laundry!” And they say, “Me too! Here is what has been working for me!” Instead of “Oh, really?! You can’t stay on top of your laundry. What are you doing all day? I mean, you’re not perfect. That’s too bad, I am.” (I know… no one really says that, but it doesn’t mean they aren’t thinking it!)
I like real people because I feel I can trust them with my realness, my lack of perfection. I think we can relate better than should one of us pretend to have it all together, all the time. I’d rather be real, than perfect, any day! One day you see, I will have perfection. Not because of my own doing though. But because of the my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. And I’m ready for it!
“but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.”1 Corinthians 13.10
What about you? Do you strive to be real, or to put off the air of perfection?
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