The Lazy Wife

By Gail · 1 Comment

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want the word ‘lazy’ to describe me. However, I find myself being exactly that. Lazy, unmotivated, selfish. I do what I want to do and the rest of the household suffers for it. Or, the kids get into something and I get upset because I didn’t see it when it happened. Why? Because I was preoccupied with my own things.

This morning as I was reading in Proverbs chapter 18 I read this:

“He who is slothful in his work is a brother to him who is a great destroyer.”

Ouch.

My work is right here in my home. When I become ‘slothful’ in it, I start to little by little destroy whatever good thing I had going. Routine, order, lack of chaos….. My husband always teases me how I can spend hours planning, prepping, organizing, *cough* laminating *cough* all of these pretty charts and papers. And I can! And I love it! Yet, when it comes to enforcing it and using what I have created, I get lazy. I start out good and have a hard time following through, even when the results are great!

As an adult, I am having to make changes to the core of who I am. I’d much rather cuddle up on the couch, with a good cup of coffee and a good book on a rainy day, rather than pull out some paint, frocks, and paper for the kids to paint. I’d rather just turn on a movie so that I can fulfill my selfish desires.

Are you shocked at my confession? Probably not. I know I’m not the only out there who feels this way. I’m not saying I always do this. I’m just saying it would be my own preference to! However, I am really having to discipline myself to not be lazy. You know how it is. Laundry is piled up, whether it’s clean or dirty, and it just needs to get done! But, as you sit and look at how much needs to get folded and put away, or washed and dried, your motivation turns to sulking.

And nothing gets done.

You save it for another day when there is more to do.

“Go to the ant, you sluggard;
consider its ways and be wise!
It has no commander,
no overseer or ruler,
yet it stores its provisions in summer
and gathers its food at harvest.

How long will you lie there, you sluggard?
When will you get up from your sleep?
A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest—
and poverty will come on you like a thief
and scarcity like an armed man.”

Thankfully, I have an amazing husband who allows me my lazy days. AND, who will get on my case when I find myself too comfortable there. I just want to encourage the rest of you today with this: It’s okay to have a lazy day. Just don’t become completely and totally lazy. Let us work hard at the job given to us! We have a great responsibility here in our home, raising our children, caring for our husbands. It is not to be taken lightly. I know our job doesn’t seem so great and important in the world’s eyes. “You’re just a stay at home mom?” However, it is not the world we want to please!